Korea’s Dating Traditions


Sogheting: A blind date set up by a friend or coworker for a Korean single. Introduction is referred to as “Soghe” in Korean, and “Ting” is an acronym for the word “meeting” in English. Typically, these pre-arranged Korean blind dates take place in coffee shops. Due to the abundance of hip cafes in these areas, college students prefer Hongdae or Shinchon when going on blind dates in Seoul.

Meeting: A group blind date is described by this Koreanized term. There could be two girls and two guys or five girls and five guys. This group blind date “meeting” takes place in coffee shops that are not overly busy; if in Seoul, Haehwa is the preferred location. For these group blind dates, the group dating organiser uses games to lighten the mood 홍대룸싸롱.

BungheTing is an acronym for the word meeting and means lightning (in reference to its speed). After internet dating started to emerge in the late 1990s, this phrase was developed. Online chatters may decide to spontaneously meet up for a “sogheting” or “meeting” without extensive pre-planning.

Matsun: This is a date that has been set by a relative or a professional matchmaker in Korea as the “official” one. Since this is strictly business, these types of dates are scheduled at upscale hotels (such as Lotte in Seoul), and the conversation focuses on getting to know each other’s “specs” (specifications, including educational and financial background details). If a girl works in a Matsun, it is not uncommon for a guy to inquire about her income in order to determine whether he is making enough money ( so as not be looked down upon). This is only a brief summary; there are many additional, fairly complex factors at play in this meeting.

There are many websites that organise dating events thanks to the growth of the internet. A more word-of-mouth oriented Korean online dating site that caters to women (50 percent) and has a high percentage of Korean Ivy League graduates (the so-called SKY grads: S= Seoul National University, K= Korea University, and Y= Yonsei University) focuses on the psychology of women. Every day at lunchtime, an avatar psychic God character sends a potential male match to the female member who meets the criteria she sets.

The traditional Korean dating practises have changed over time as a result of the development of the internet and mobile technology. They are no longer as strict as they once were.